Talk to your children, avoid negativity say city psychiatrists

With HSC results set to be announced tomorrow May 30. The increasing number of suicide cases during exam results has become highly concerning issue for parents, teachers and children alike. Children who get low marks struggle mentally and emotionally. Attention needs to be paid to these children so as to avoid negative implications on the mental health of a child

Talk to your children, avoid negativity say city psychiatrists
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The result for Higher Secondary Certificate (HSC) examination or class 12 of Maharashtra State Board of Secondary and Higher Secondary Education (MSBSHSE) will be announced on May 30 at 1 pm. The exams were conducted from February 28 to March 25, 2017.

More than 15.05 lakh students appeared for the Maharashtra HSC 2017 exams out of 8, 48,000 were boys while 6,56,000 were girls

On the eve of HSC results Vaishnavi Chiplunkar, a 14-year –old Andheri resident is feeling stressed as her HSC results will be out anytime. “I want to become a professor. This result is going to be the first step towards my career. My parents have great expectations from me. I have given my best during the exams, but still I am afraid,” she said.

Vaishnavi’s case is a similar to many such teenagers who have appeared for board exams. The period of time before board exam results are announced is stressful to both child and parent. It is a stage which is full of expectations, fear about failure, anxiety, competition. It is important to understand how to tackle this situation in order to avoid any negative impact on a child’s mind.

Children who get low marks in their examinations feel despair, humiliation, sadness and hopelessness. The child keeps struggling mentally and emotionally. Attention needs to be paid to these children so as to avoid negative implications on the mental health of a child.

Dr Sagar Karia, Psychiatric at Sion Hospital  said “The parents should not show unhappiness or sorrow when a child gets low marks. They should accept the capability of their child. They should praise the child for his/her efforts and should encourage them saying this was just one hurdle in the race. He/she can do better in next game. Do not to compare their marks with his/her friends or siblings. As each person has their own capability.”

When children secure good marks they go through emotions of exultation, happiness, satisfaction, gratitude, pride. Questions start arising. The process of admissions begins; choosing the right course for the right career is a persistent question. What is the right career for me?  Which are the courses that these marks will offer me? What is the scope of that career? These questions in their mind lead to confusion in the child.

Dr Karia adds “Right selection of career is important, but don’t take this decision alone or with advice of friends. Be frank with your parents in this case. Parents also should not force their hopes/opinions on them. Enhance his/her ability which will lead to their happiness. Consult a professional career expert for the better guidance.”

Talk to your children, avoid negativity say city psychiatrists

Dr Harish Shetty, Psychiatrist, Dr LH Hiranandani Hospital said, “Excessive shame causes agony and depression. Reputation is a fantasy. Dealing with the results openly helps one to move on. As parents hug your child whatever is the performance. Throw a party for sure. Remember you have given birth to your child and not to a mark sheet”.

The increasing number of suicide cases during exam results has become highly concerning issue for parents, teachers and children alike.

Cases of suicide are reported in the news during these times, headlines appear which read as 17-year-old student from Navi Mumbai allegedly committed suicide on Sunday after failing in class 12 CBSE exam or 12 students committed suicide on 13th May, in parts of Madhya Pradesh. As the students were depressed over their results of class X and XII exams conducted by the state board.

Dr Avinash DeSousa, a Mumbai based psychiatrist said “The one thing which need to be consider on a serious note that results are not the end. Parents and child should learn to accept failure. Understand your child, respect their feeling and ability. If we want this suicidal cycle to be end, parent should come be more communicative with child. Be a friend for your child.”

Dr Sagar Mundada, psychiatrist at KEM Hospital, said, “With class 12 and 10 results just around the corner, certain things that parents and students must remember. Have realistic expectations from your results. Results in SSC exam tests only a small area of your whole personality. So don’t judge your worth with your marks. Don’t compare yourself with anyone”.

Advising parents Dr Mundada said “Love your child unconditionally for who he/she is and not by what he/she has scored in the exam. Strictly avoid comparisons, as each child is unique. Appreciate your child’s efforts and not the outcome. Acknowledge the other qualities and talents of your child and encourage them. Create a safe family atmosphere of free and frank communication for your child. Do not impose any career option on your child”.